When you have a kid everyone warns you about the terrible twos. I was so prepared that I'm pretty sure they didn't even happen. no one seems to tell you about the 3/4 year old boys.

Mason will be 4 in may, and sometimes he acts like a hormonal teenage boy. All of a sudden I'm being faced with a little pint sized human telling me that "its not fair,you don't need to shout at me, you're so mean I'm going to my room" the list goes on. with everything i ask him to do i get a growled response with a stop of his feet, like seriously what is this.

I decided to do a bit of research. some say at age 4/5/6 boys have a peak of testosterone and that's reason for their behaviour but then others say that its just their age, they want to play play play play and play some more but at this age they're getting ready to start school and be told to keep still. while there's no actual evidence to say that little boys even have a testosterone surge many parents still put this down to the reason as to while their perfect little boys are acting out.

All i can say is Mason is only happy when hes running, screaming, climbing over the furniture, fighting, wrestling and telling me we're not friends. so how am i tackling this new behaviour?

1. try new activities- Mason and i have never been a fan of soft plays, hes always preferred finding his own little area if we ever went.so i was on the search for a small little soft play, and i found one so small were often the only ones in there. we now go once a week and he looks forward to it. We also do lots of baking and painting.





2, Get them outdoors. With the cold weather its so easy to just stay in and stick on the TV but fresh air is good for everything and everyone. but honestly 30 minutes out side will do them the world of good to get rid of some of that extra energy




3. Go along with their imagination. Masons imagination amazes me daily, the little scenarios he makes up are great and its easy to just nod and say " yes babe" but I found if i try and get involved as much as possible his little face lights up and he asks to play with me more, which gives him less time to shout orders at me.


4. Let them be kids.  as annoying as my child jumping over my sofa is, and banging my candles on the table tops, my house isn't a show home[ as my partner keeps trying to tell me] This is his house too, he should be able to play as much as he wants, where he wants and with what ever he wants [ within reason].



5. try not to take it personally. Most days mason tells me hes going to tell his dad that Ive hit him[when i haven't], shouted at him and that he only loves daddy. Sometimes i get all silly and wonder does my child even like me. but when hes not being a crazy little nearly 4 year old i do get the occasional kiss and "i love you " until daddy comes home from work and i get a punch in the face. I know he loves me.


with all that being said i think its just giving your child the time of day. Put the phone down for a bit and really play. Its something i want to do more. After dinner when your tired make time to sit down and build that track or play that game they've been nagging you about all week. while I'm no expert, nor do i have lots of kids for experience any human being knows what makes another human happy and if that means all my sofa cushions are on the floor because masons made a make believe trampoline land then so be it.


                                         

If you asked me what the one thing i wanted when i moved out I would of said ' A really pretty make up organiser' 8 months later I've finally got one.

Ive never really had loads of make up, or been into make up but i love how make up looks in an organiser but I've always kept my make up in grubby little make up bags but no more with the help of primarks PS beauty range! for under £10 Ive ditched the bags and got that beautiful make up organiser Ive always wanted.







I've always loved the look of the acrylic Makeup organisers, and as i was wondering in primark the other day i stumbled across all their beauty stuff. Its amazing what you find when you don't have a crazy 3 year old to chase.

They had all sorts in there, from actual make up which is actually okay and loads of little beauty bits like tweezers,cotton pad holders and everything, and to make it even better its all rose gold *heart eyes*

So to show you what i was dealing with, here's all my make up from before



The brushes were always bent, the insides where filthy and it was just a general mess. I managed to get the actual organisers for less than £10. The Drawers were £4, the organiser on top was £2 and the cotton pad holder was £1.50. I then got all the other accessories for with £1 or £1.50 all absolute bargains.

And Now i have a beautiful organised make up table, all with rose gold goodies too!

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Its been a while! Once again the real world took over and i had to give the whole blogging thing a break, But I'm back and to kick things off ive decided to give you the recipe for some slimming world friendly brownies. Two reasons, I've re joined,yes me going it alone failed I was not following the plan at all. Ad secondly christmas is still so fresh not everyone is ready to ditch all the chocolate, well I know i'm not. 

So here's some brownies that are only going to cost you approx half a syn each...Basically means you can have about 4. winner!

• Pre-heat the oven to Gas Mark 4/180
• spray a cupcake tray with fry light 
• Separate the egg yolks and whites and set aside.
• In a bowl mix together the egg yolks, cocoa powder, sweetener and vanilla essence. 
• A little water will need to be added at this point as the mix will be a little stiff .
• Whisk the egg whites into stiff peaks
• Carefully fold the cocoa mixture into the egg whites so that both the mixtures are well combined.
• separate the brownie mixture into the cupcake tray evenly. 
• Bake in the middle of the oven for 15-20 minutes until a knife or skewer comes out clean from the middle of the brownie.
• leave to cool for a few moments and then prize them out of the tray. 

different view of going back to work from a mumma that has has to suffer from post natal depression, Something that myself have never had to deal with, So i thought why not let Letizia from Blesswithaiko have her say on the subject of going back to work.

I've been tossing around the idea of going back into work for a few months now.. I won't bore everyone with my post natal depression story but I've been suffering quite badly and one of the reasons why is because I've never not had a job. Even though people say being a mum is a full time job in itself it's just not the same as going out to work. I love going to work and not being confined to my house. Originally I wanted to stay off work until my daughter was 1. That soon changed after she was born. People have been trying to persuade me into not going back to work but i've known for a while now that I need it. Working is good for my mind. I've been out of work for 9 months. Don;t get me wrong, I love being with my daughter but sometimes I need to just get away. I'm alone with her 24/7 with no help as her dad works away 99.9% of the time and I think it's nice for us both to have a little time around others, especially now shes a little bigger and becoming more independent herself.

The only thing that is getting to me are the negative comments i've received  from both family/friends and random people. People always find a way to bring you down when your on a high. With the depression a small comment can be over thought and put you into a massive downward spiral, it makes you so sensitive to anything remotely negative. I've avoided leaving the house on so many occasions and going out, never mind going for a job interview. Can you imagine how hard it is to try and convince someone to like you when you don't even like yourself. I've gained so much weight, I've gone from a size 10 to a size 16 and my self esteem has never been so low. I used to dance and be so creative, I used to network and socialize so much. Now I don't even like to go out with friends. I don't go anywhere without the baby because I feel like with her people can at least think "oh she's fat because she hasn't long had a baby". It took so much to attend my interviews and try to find the old happy, self confident me, then people want to attack me for leaving my child and try to make me feel like a bad mother for wanting to provide for us and taking the next step to making myself better.
I had my training days on Friday and Saturday, they were full days and my goodness. What a shock to the system, but a good shock! I felt like a new woman with a new lease of life. The managers gave such inspirational talks and told us that they chose us because we were confident, intelligent and bubbly, all things I forgot about myself. The job role itself is just amazing and right up my street so I'm going to do everything in my power to prove to them and myself that they didn't make the wrong decision.

Going to work has been hard though, I found myself at my lunch times just watching videos of my little girl and missing her but i had to keep telling myself that it's only a day or two a week and that i get extra smiles and cuddles when I walk through the door. I really needed this change. I know my daughters in good hands and I just want all new mums to know that It's okay to leave your little ones to go back to work and it's also okay not to go back to work. We all know when were ready and other peoples opinions about how you parent or go about life should have no impact on the decisions you make. It's a massive decision and only you can make it.