My child wont eat
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yesterday we finally had our appointment with a pediatrician about masons chronic cough,vomiting and lack of breath-which we are no closer to finding out what it is *yay* but i was told my child was iron deficient, i think the word the doctor used was malnourished.
how was my 1 meter tall, 37lb 2 and a half year old child malnourished?
i felt awful, as if i've been neglecting him this whole time. it kept me up last night even thinking about it. where did i go wrong? how did i let this happen? is it my fault? and the more i thought about it the worse i felt. believe me when i say i'm exhausted this morning and no amount of coffee will help
so mason loves milk, to the point he still drinks 4/5 9oz bottles in a 24 hour period. its alot for his age i know but when your child doesn't eat then you give them whatever they ask for. and he asks for milk, which in return starts a vicious circle of filling him up on milk for him to then not eat food, so i give him more milk.
we all try and give our kids the best meals we can. meat and 2 veg, with some carbs, not too much chocolate and lots of fruit, but when they start refusing your home cooked meals and you start throwing away more than they eat it starts to grate on you. and for me i ended up getting lazy. at one point he had ready meals or packet pastas because that's all he would eat.
lately hes been point blank refusing to eat. covers his mouth, cries, hits me, throws his food. anything to not eat it. and that's all after i've given him what he's asked for. He was eating really well at nursery, but now they tell me he refuses, and doesn't eat all of his meals now.
( he used to have 2 lots of most meals)
i'm at a loss with it all quite frankly. how is a 2 year old defeating me.
This isn't a post to give any advice, but this is a post to ask for help!
does this end? is it a phase? what can i do to help him? how am i going to be strong enough ?
I need advice!
-love Ashleigh
2 comments
It absolutely is a phase (unless he had some underlying condition the health visitor/ doctors haven't noticed which could be linked to his lack of breath/coughing) I remember being so upset that Falon wouldn't eat, I was either crying or screaming at her to eat. I can't remember when it started to get better, but i remember including her in meal preparations, even simple things like breakfast (putting cereal in the bowl). You've got to be cruel to be kind, refuse him his milk until he's eaten his veg or pasta sandwich or something. Try reasoning and always, always, always give him praise. Even if he has nibbles the end of a sandwich, praise the Bloody Mary mother of Jesu and really make a huge point of congratulating him. It will get better, I promise. You have me on Instagram, if you need anyone to rant to, or advice just d/m me @k1mmyanna xxx
ReplyDeleteThank you Hun! I'm really hoping it is a phase at the moment he's gonna be on iron therapy to help him but I am trying to be stern with him. It's painful having the battles everyday but I guess it will be worth it. Getting him to help with meal prep is a good idea I'll have to try that. Thank you again chick xx
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